We have all read of how essentially people are pulled back from things they want to do, by the society or family around them. Thanks to such celebrated notions, everyone has a reason for not ‘starting’ or ‘doing’ things they want to. I used to think the same & believe in it, till some time.
The idea is so celebrated that if there is a success story, going back the timeline will for sure have a tale of how the person fought all odds or resistance around him.For instance the article here, the article quotes the instance from the founder of Zomato. Every biography or story ever published on such instances talks and focus on the, social fabric to be a major hindrance. Not that it’s not true, but I’d say its just not completely true.
I am not just talking about Entrepreneurship, but more generic things that stall our lives or make you cemented, with just one way forward with whatever you want to do. Be that being a nomad traveller, penning down that book , starting the gym or even getting married. As humans we are bound to factor exterior blocks, before looking at that log of wood in our own head.
The jump from getting ‘stuck’ to moving ‘forward’ is very tricky. After selling the company I constituted to a French group, I have been wanting to do so many things with my time since I didn’t have to run the company. That was 12 months ago. Now, when i look back, I have done nothing of that sort and I have been blaming everything and anything for it. It is not like I have been faking or making up these reasons or trying to hide my ‘laziness’ with a visual story that fits into the puzzle. I have considered my state to be that of a, ‘ Middle class syndrome ‘ , a state where you feel stuck , with not much going forward or a state where your emotional or mental growth is almost nil. I have been wanting to write blogs regularly, darn, I have even been wanting to pen down a book.
I keep saying to myself, I don’t have the inspiration or encouragement required to do all that, but when I look at it, I have it all. a perfect setting in my Life. My company got acquired, I get paid good, ( my startup journey was what got me nearly bankrupt ), I have spare time and I am committed to the most beautiful woman I have ever known. The point is by the looks of it, there is nothing wrong. Exactly how a middle class guy should be, he has a home loan, a car, a decent life; everything that would look perfect in one glance.
However, I figured out something intriguing ! We do not get cemented in life due to the things around us or the social fabric or lack of inspiration. We get stuck because the activities we undertake regularly in our lives are monotonous and lacks our own individuality and magnetism. It has more to do with, our own log of wood that’s blocking us from doing the things we want to do, while we blame external factors to be the reason behind our own hindrances.
We will do great things if we put ourselves into a system and circle which has our personality and flavour. A easy version of this is ‘ Doing things you like ‘. This is what makes the difference. I agree, it sounds like a chicken and egg situation, because we all try to do things we ‘love’.
The solution is to, put our hearts into what we are working on at present, and most importantly to do it with passion. As our everyday actions have a lot to do with our sub conscious mind. If there is no passion in your existing career or whatever you do , find a task, job, hobby which can be combined with your current situation.
[blockquote type=”left, center, right”]The idea is simple, hack or cheat your mind into actions that feed your soul with passion , love and excitement everyday so that your subconscious mind helps you to focus on what you really want to do.[/blockquote]
I have been stuck because my soul now lacks that excitement it had when I was developing this company. I have been doing mundane things which just got my head into building this huge log of wood, which I failed to surpass till this time. I am putting this to a test, I am taking some time off work to do something that fuels my passion and excites my soul in a way that, it does not hurt my career. The dig with Frying Pan is just that, and it is about time I made efforts for it. Who knows maybe soon, I might even be able to pen down that book of mine, with the help of my editor in chief !
I thought of sharing my thoughts to know more about people who have been through this phase or still fighting to come out of it. Let me know, your thoughts and experiences !